6 Steps for Getting out of a Rut

I’ve been in a rut. Like a full-on, uninspired, unmotivated rut. I don’t know if it was coming back from Thanksgiving that made me feel worn out or if it’s the weird December weather that has left me feeling completely burnt out, but the struggle has been REAL.

But don’t worry – I’ll save you the pain of moaning and groaning about it and tell you how I got OUT of this rut. It may have taken me a week, but I’m back to feeling like myself again – and that’s a good feeling.

[Step 1] Let yourself be in a rut.

Wait, what? Yes. Sometimes we just need to let ourselves chill and feel our feelings and stay in our rut. Our first instinct is to ask ourselves what the heck is wrong with us and try to move on with our days as if nothing is going on, and the majority of the time, that just leaves you feeling even more burnt out than before. So – take a step back and give yourself permission to relax.

[Step 2] Allow yourself to cancel plans.

So obviously if you have a huge interview or work meeting, you likely can’t cancel those. But plans with friends, meeting someone new for coffee, hanging out with your sister all day – those plans can be postponed. We often feel such crazy pressure to fulfill all of our commitments, to be everything to everyone and a lot of times, that leaves zero time for number one – you.

[Step 3] Give yourself what you need. 

Sometimes you just need a cocktail. Or a new outfit. Or a pizza night with your best friend. I needed a grilled cheese sandwich, a glass of red wine and a bubble bath, k? Especially during the week, a lot of us feel like we can’t tune in to what we need because we’re too busy trying to meet our next deadline, make someone else happy or run a million errands. Stop and ask yourself what you NEED, and give yourself permission to give it to yo’ damn self.

[Step 4] Have a day completely to yourself.

Last Sunday, I made zero plans. Nada. Zilch. I knew that I desperately needed a day to myself. I woke up at 10:30 (praise Jesus), had an almond milk latte from Starbucks, made myself some almond butter & banana toast, and spent the day listening to podcasts, cleaning my apartment and watching Christmas movies. And it was EXACTLY what I needed. No plans, no commitments, no appointments… it was pretty much bliss.

[Step 5] Do something that always makes you feel productive.

Maybe it’s spending five minutes organizing a drawer or five hours cleaning your entire house. Whatever it is for you, pick something that you know you’ll feel accomplished after doing, and do it. Since I work from home, I never meal prep any more, but I had some food in my fridge I needed to use up, and knew I wanted to have healthy options for meals this week, so I spent a couple of hours meal prepping and felt so much better afterwards.

[ Step 6] Get back into your routine.

Monday morning I woke up, made my coffee with collagen and almond milk, whipped up my usual smoothie and got to work early. I took a barre class at lunch, worked in the afternoon and then spent the evening making myself dinner and curling up on the couch with trashy TV – just how I like it. After (let’s be honest) a week of my routine being ALL over the place, my body and soul desperately craved it. Sometimes the best thing you can do when you’re just not feelin’ it is to try to get back into your routine.

And wouldn’t you know… I’m out of my rut! I feel energized, motivated, inspired and 10x better – really. So next time you’re just not feeling like yourself, I encourage you to follow these steps and know that EVERYONE has bad days… bad weeks… bad months. We’re human. :)

 

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26 Things I’ve Learned in 26 Years

Another year, and another birthday come and gone – and another year older, ahhh! *Cue the botox* JK… but really.

I had a great birthday this year and got to celebrate with the people I love most. It’s funny how, as we get older, it’s less about the party and the amount of people around you, and more about doing the things you love with the people who love you the most.

For me, that involves a lot of prosecco, a little bit of exercise, too much good food, some creativity (y’all HAVE to try the candle making workshop at Candlefish) and some cake, obviously.

Now that the celebrations have come and gone, here are 26 things I’ve learned in 26 years. I have a feeling this year is going to be the best one yet.

1. Life’s too short; eat the damn pizza.
2. With friendships, here’s my philosophy: quality over quantity.
3. Burpees still suck. Find a workout you like.
4. My parents are actually my favorite humans.
5. When it comes to eating, listen to your body. No one cares if you’re vegan, vegetarian, pescatarian, paleo… whatever. Do what works for you.
6. Be kind to people. No one likes a Judgey McJudgerson.
7. A sibling is like a built in best friend – even if you’re polar opposites.
8. There’s nothing like a juicy burger, fries and glass of rosè to cure a bad day.
9. Experiences > material things.
10. Being single may be fun, but having a partner in life and a best friend by your side always makes life a little sweeter.
11. Living by yourself is a luxury everyone should experience once.
12. Alcohol is not as fun as it once was. *Exhibit A: the 2-day hangovers that now occur after 3 glasses of wine.*
13. Taking care of your skin is important. Bring on the night cream!
14. We’re all doing the best we can. Go easy on yourself.
15. Meditation is hard. But also an amazing habit to pick up.
16. Eat real food.
17. Money doesn’t equal happiness, but managing it properly can help.
18. Sleep = life.
19. Your intuition is your best friend.
20. Grocery shopping is one of my favorite experiences, and one I’m willing to pay more for. Trader Joe’s > Walmart
21. Wanna feel like a hottie? Drink a glass of champagne.
22. Eat more greens; your skin will thank you.
23. Work is just that – work. Don’t let it consume your life.
24. Check in with your friends often. Those relationships won’t maintain themselves.
25. Saying ‘no’ to going out with your friends in exchange for vegging out on the couch with Netflix and Halo Top is a perfectly acceptable Friday night.
26. Gratitude can turn your attitude around. Find something to be grateful for each day.
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Why You Need a Social Media Detox – Like Yesterday…

 

Hi friends & Happy October! It’s officially my favorite month of the year and I could not be more excited.

This past weekend, I got to stand by one of my sweet girlfriend’s sides as she married the man of her dreams. Complete with an insane venue (Frogtown Cellars in Dahlonega – GORGEOUS), the most perfect fall weather, my handsome date and lots of good wine and good food, it was an amazing weekend.

As someone who’s self-admittedly addicted to social media, I decided to take a little breather and just be PRESENT – and it made such a difference. I maybe spent ten minutes on Instagram tops (because quitting cold turkey is hard, k?)

I felt completely present, not worried about what other friends were doing that weekend or what they were wearing or where they were traveling to. I was able to focus on the here and now, and it truly was a breath of fresh air.

The funny part was that I didn’t even miss it. There wasn’t a moment where I thought “I need to go grab my phone!” It stayed in the bridal suite during the entire wedding.

Sometimes, it’s so important to take a step back, unplug and appreciate what’s happening around you instead of worrying about what’s happening in some far off Internet land.

We’ve become so engrossed in the world of social media – and don’t get me wrong, I think it’s very cool in the way that it connects us and how it has changed the way we communicate. However, being mindful and present in the moment is a lost art that I think we could all focus on a little bit more.

My little social media detox made me feel grateful, energized and content. Instead of worrying about capturing the perfect blogger shot in (literally) the most picturesque setting, I laughed with my friends and boyfriend, danced the night away and made memories I’ll always remember.

I think I’m going to try to do this at least once a week moving forward and see how it goes. Who’s with me?