I’ve been thinking a lot lately about this concept of Fake it ’til you make it. We hear it a lot, but what does it really mean?
Let’s start out by saying no one likes a fake. No one wants to be friends with that girl who is one way to your face and another when she leaves the room. No one likes the person who is super fake on Instagram when really you know she is someone completely different in real life – yawn. I think we’re all kind of over that.
Now it’s all about being authentic, real and showing your true colors. I think we can all appreciate that. So, faking it ’til you make it is not actually about being fake, but it’s about a mindset.
I’ve seen this idea play out in my life a lot recently. I’ll preface this by saying I am not good at it. I wear my heart on my sleeve and am usually pretty open with people. If I meet you and connect with you right off the bat, chances are I’ll let you in pretty quickly. While I don’t necessarily think this is a bad quality to have, it sometimes bites me in the ass, because after talking about an issue or a problem going on in my life multiple times to multiple people, it doesn’t make me feel better, but usually worse. What a concept, right?!
I’ll give a couple examples.
A lot of my sweet friends have been asking lately, excitedly, “So how’s the blog going? It looks like you’re doing so many cool/fun/great things!” to which my response has typically been something like “Ugh thanks, it’s not that good… I don’t have any free time to work on it so it’s not where I want it to be. Blah blah blah…” Why not just say “Thank you so much, I really love doing it! I’m really passionate about it!” and work with the mindset of, ‘damn, it is going pretty well and something I should be proud of’ – even though it may not be exactly where I want it just yet – fake it ’til you make it.
Another one. I’ve been taking barre3 classes for about three months now. My boyfriend and I both try to live pretty healthy lifestyles and have made working out a regular part of our routines, so he’ll often ask me “How’s barre going?” and I immediately say something like “Oh, you know, it’s going okay…” instead of “It’s going really well! My butt feels firmer, I feel great after I leave class AND my triceps are so sore!” Just because I’m not at the “end of my journey” and just because I don’t have this amazing body after three months of doing this workout, I’m hesitant to fully answer the question. Why is that?
It reminds me of that saying: Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.
We love to tell people about our problems, because we think it’ll make us feel better – which, sometimes it does – but when we repeat the same issues over and over again, it makes it nearly impossible to clear our minds of them.
So, I think the concept of Fake it ’til you make it means adapting the mindset of where you want to be when you have “made it.” For me, it means accepting where I am with my blog and being proud of it, as if I’ve already made it to *big time blogger status* and being happy with where I am in my journey with barre3, without putting pressure on myself to not really talk about it until I reach “the end” and achieve the results I’m looking to achieve.
It simply comes down to being confident and secure and owning where you are in life.
So tell me, what area of life do you think you can apply the Fake it ’til you make it concept in? I’d love to know!
Happy weekend, babes!