Why You Need a Social Media Detox – Like Yesterday…

 

Hi friends & Happy October! It’s officially my favorite month of the year and I could not be more excited.

This past weekend, I got to stand by one of my sweet girlfriend’s sides as she married the man of her dreams. Complete with an insane venue (Frogtown Cellars in Dahlonega – GORGEOUS), the most perfect fall weather, my handsome date and lots of good wine and good food, it was an amazing weekend.

As someone who’s self-admittedly addicted to social media, I decided to take a little breather and just be PRESENT – and it made such a difference. I maybe spent ten minutes on Instagram tops (because quitting cold turkey is hard, k?)

I felt completely present, not worried about what other friends were doing that weekend or what they were wearing or where they were traveling to. I was able to focus on the here and now, and it truly was a breath of fresh air.

The funny part was that I didn’t even miss it. There wasn’t a moment where I thought “I need to go grab my phone!” It stayed in the bridal suite during the entire wedding.

Sometimes, it’s so important to take a step back, unplug and appreciate what’s happening around you instead of worrying about what’s happening in some far off Internet land.

We’ve become so engrossed in the world of social media – and don’t get me wrong, I think it’s very cool in the way that it connects us and how it has changed the way we communicate. However, being mindful and present in the moment is a lost art that I think we could all focus on a little bit more.

My little social media detox made me feel grateful, energized and content. Instead of worrying about capturing the perfect blogger shot in (literally) the most picturesque setting, I laughed with my friends and boyfriend, danced the night away and made memories I’ll always remember.

I think I’m going to try to do this at least once a week moving forward and see how it goes. Who’s with me?

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Fake It ‘Til You Make It

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about this concept of Fake it ’til you make it. We hear it a lot, but what does it really mean?

Let’s start out by saying no one likes a fake. No one wants to be friends with that girl who is one way to your face and another when she leaves the room. No one likes the person who is super fake on Instagram when really you know she is someone completely different in real life – yawn. I think we’re all kind of over that.

Now it’s all about being authentic, real and showing your true colors. I think we can all appreciate that. So, faking it ’til you make it is not actually about being fake, but it’s about a mindset.

I’ve seen this idea play out in my life a lot recently. I’ll preface this by saying I am not good at it. I wear my heart on my sleeve and am usually pretty open with people. If I meet you and connect with you right off the bat, chances are I’ll let you in pretty quickly. While I don’t necessarily think this is a bad quality to have, it sometimes bites me in the ass, because after talking about an issue or a problem going on in my life multiple times to multiple people, it doesn’t make me feel better, but usually worse. What a concept, right?!

I’ll give a couple examples.

A lot of my sweet friends have been asking lately, excitedly, “So how’s the blog going? It looks like you’re doing so many cool/fun/great things!” to which my response has typically been something like “Ugh thanks, it’s not that good… I don’t have any free time to work on it so it’s not where I want it to be. Blah blah blah…”  Why not just say “Thank you so much, I really love doing it! I’m really passionate about it!” and work with the mindset of, ‘damn, it is going pretty well and something I should be proud of’ – even though it may not be exactly where I want it just yet – fake it ’til you make it.

Another one. I’ve been taking barre3 classes for about three months now. My boyfriend and I both try to live pretty healthy lifestyles and have made working out a regular part of our routines, so he’ll often ask me “How’s barre going?” and I immediately say something like “Oh, you know, it’s going okay…” instead of “It’s going really well! My butt feels firmer, I feel great after I leave class AND my triceps are so sore!” Just because I’m not at the “end of my journey” and just because I don’t have this amazing body after three months of doing this workout, I’m hesitant to fully answer the question. Why is that?

It reminds me of that saying: Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys. 

We love to tell people about our problems, because we think it’ll make us feel better – which, sometimes it does – but when we repeat the same issues over and over again, it makes it nearly impossible to clear our minds of them.

So, I think the concept of Fake it ’til you make it means adapting the mindset of where you want to be when you have “made it.” For me, it means accepting where I am with my blog and being proud of it, as if I’ve already made it to *big time blogger status* and being happy with where I am in my journey with barre3, without putting pressure on myself to not really talk about it until I reach “the end” and achieve the results I’m looking to achieve.

It simply comes down to being confident and secure and owning where you are in life.

So tell me, what area of life do you think you can apply the Fake it ’til you make it concept in? I’d love to know!

Happy weekend, babes!

A Magical Self-Care Spa Day ft. exhale spa

I’ve been really into the concept of self-care lately. With our busy schedules and running around like crazy people all day long, I think it’s become more crucial than ever. I love a good face mask/tea/warm bath situation when I can squeeze it in, or even something not so extravagant like making myself a warm, nourishing breakfast instead of a fast smoothie or yogurt. Start weaving little self-care moments into your day and see what happens.

Today I want to talk about the ultimate self-care scenario – a trip to the spa!

I recently had the opportunity to enjoy the most incredible couples massage with Danny at exhale spa in Midtown. It was the whole shebang – zen music, infused water, essential oils and the most relaxing massage. I had tried out exhale before for its workout classes (love their barre and cycling), but when I got the chance to try a spa treatment I was so freakin’ excited.

Let me walk you through the day. 

So, D & I got to the Loews hotel in Midtown (exhale is located inside the hotel) about 20 minutes early and checked in. The space is absolutely gorgeous and so, so zen. It’s like they spray the air with something to make you calm and relaxed the second you walk in.  After filling out some brief paperwork, they led us to our respective bathrooms to get our robes on and get our spa day underway. I put on my plush, oversized robe and was ready for my rub-down.

We got the Couples Flow Massage (exhale’s signature massage) and it was pure relaxation. We got to each pick our own essential oil for our massage therapist to use (we both picked the citrusy “detox” one) and then we stripped down and got on our massage tables for some very much needed R&R. I think I dozed in and out of consciousness for the next hour, but it was amazing. Afterwards, we both felt so relaxed and refreshed.

We put our robes back on and headed to the hammam and sauna, where we sipped on cucumber water and hot tea and just chilled. No phones. No emails. It was great. 

Whether you can get to the spa or not, I think it’s critical to weave self-care practices into your everyday – whether it’s taking five minutes in the morning to sit with your coffee in silence, or taking a yoga class before a busy day – make the time to squeeze it in.

That being said, I highly recommend exhale for a spa therapy, because #TreatYoSelf, right? The kind staff, amazing amenities and zen atmosphere at exhale make it the perfect destination for you to reconnect with yourself or your significant other.

Hope you all are having an awesome week filled with lots of self-care !!! I’m off to go read and attempt to get to bed early for barre in the AM. Night!